Reading Moi's post and the dilemma that she's facing reminded me of this story I know and no this story is not made up its about a real couple..
A guy and a girl both mid 20s were madly in love with each other, they knew each other inside out, they describe themselves as soulmates. They were together for 4 years they loved each other insanely, when she was studying abroad he would visit her at least once a month, when she had a tutor at home he would make her keep the phoneline open while he was in Kuwait just because he would get jealous and worried about her. I can't describe how much they were in love,they say during the 4 years it was the happiest time of both of their lives.
Come the time to take the relationship to the next step and get married the guys mother says No because of the a9el and fa9el story. He tried over and over again and his mother said no and seeing his father was dead and he was the only boy he had to be there for his mother. He broke up with the love of his life. It was THE most miserable thing ever, she was beyond shattered and so was he. She contacts him again within the year and asks again if he's willing to put up a fight, he says no and tells her "La tathlmeen bakhtich etha yach n9eeb twklay 3ala alah" little did he know that a random guy proposed to her and a week later emlchat (she got married)!
He was in a state that was beyond heartbreaking but he kept on saying I can't keep her hanging on seeing I would never go against my mother. Within the weeks of the milcha they saw each other while her sister was with her and the guy and girl would just sit there hugging each other and crying like little children, that happened a couple of times. She knew what she was doing was wrong but loved him far more than this stranger she was married to who probably had a past himself. During the next 5 months he did the impossible to forget her from being drunk 24/7, partying, travelling, even dating other girls! Funny thing was the girls that he chose could easily be mistaken for her! He even chose his gf's to look identical to her! He used to call her sister in the middle of the night drunk and crying begging her to conference his ex in the call just so he can hear her voice.
On the sixth month of the girls marriage who was unhappy and could not forget her soulmate to the extant she would start crying after each time her husband touched her, she was beyond miserable, there was no understanding between them, he didn't know her and wasn't trying and she didn't know him and when she tried to know him he'd turn her down.
All of the sudden the guys mother dies! Now he lost the love of his life and his mother! Fast forward 4 years onwards she has 3 kids and he STILL can't get over her! He can't forget her and she simply can't forget him. Her husband and children couldn't make her forget him. He's still single and unhappy and she's married with children and unhappy..
What a waste of the love they had and what a waste of the future they will have..
p.s. There are many more details that would make your heart break but I had to cut it short..